“The hand of the Lord was on me, and he brought me out by the Spirit of the Lord and set me in the middle of a valley; it was full of bones.He led me back and forth among them, and I saw a great many bones on the floor of the valley, bones that were very dry. He asked me, “Son of man, can these bones live?”I said, “Sovereign Lord, you alone know.4Then he said to me, “Prophesy to these bones and say to them, ‘Dry bones, hear the word of the Lord! This is what the Sovereign Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life. I will attach tendons to you and make flesh come upon you and cover you with skin; I will put breath in you, and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the Lord.” – Ezekiel 37:1:6

The journey of celibacy and single-hood as beautiful as it is, a lot of us waited in preparedness of what is to come in marriage without the anticipation of a possible divorce or separation because the truth of the matter is, despite our different reasons of getting married no one is getting in a marriage covenant with the hope of going out one day. A lot of us meet our Boaz or Ruth, then we get swept into a whirlwind of romance and promises of forever, lobola negotiations, beautiful extravagant wedding, some blessed with a house full of beautiful children then months later or years later into the fairytale we find ourselves in storms of never ending wars that eventually lead into talks of divorce or the actual divorce taking place. The few years I have been married it has become apparent to me, that marriage comes with challenges and it is an institution that truly does stand by the vows that usher you in ,“for better, or worse”. Indeed the worst comes at the worst extremes for some and the better feels like walking on sunshine. Now that I am married and fully aware that marriage is on a constant spiritual warfare. The devil is not here to play with marriages, he is on a full on war and I alot of us are not aware that we are in a war. I believe there are marriages that the devil aborted prematurely because he takes advantage of the fact that we don’t know how to fight back , or there are marriages currently under attack and the spouses are giving up because they are not aware of the hand of the devil on their marriage. 

Marriage is a covenant (spiritual way of viewing it) and the world treats it as just a lifestyle or a fairytale (a flesh way of viewing it) and if it doesn’t work out or bring you happiness choose yourself. Of course there are extreme cases where a life of a spouse is put at risk through different types of abuse and in that scenario I always advocate for a separation. The disciples told Jesus is better not to marry when Jesus told them divorce is committing a sin, (Matthew 19). My understanding from this context is that before you enter into a marriage, be sure you chose well and that it’s not just for vibes or for happiness or for a beautiful fairytale but indeed you are aware that you entering into a covenant of forever with God and your spouse.   The truth is because it is a holy institution the devil will definitely come for it and if we are not aware what we are fighting, we are going to lose the battle faster than we got in.

You might have signed divorced papers, or in the middle of a separation or in a dead marriage filled with strife and without hope. In situations like this we are sometimes confronted with conflicting perspectives (The flesh and spirit are constantly at war). We then have to look past our emotions and feelings and ask ourselves what is the truth? (The truth is part of Gods armour). At this very moment what matters is what you see in the spirit, what your faith tells you. The most important and crucial part in the scripture, was when God brought Ezekiel in the Valley of dry bones and asked him, “What do you see”. God works with spiritual vision, Hope. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen, (Hebrews 11:1). If you believe in your heart that God will restore your marriage, prophesy like prophet Ezekiel when he saw the dry bones. You might be going through a very tumultuous marriage, you have never experienced peace in your marriage, and you believe God for the restoration of your marriage, then prophesy to the dry bones of your marriage. You might be in the brink of divorce, have not signed but in your heart you believe God for a miracle in your marriage, for a sudden shift, then prophesy like prophet Ezekiel did to the dry bones and breathe life into your marriage and breath life into your marriage. I love that the scripture uses dry bones as context because in our mortal vision there is no hope of life in dry bones, I would love to challenge you and ask you, what do you see when you look at your marriage/life/health? Hopelessness or do you believe your marriage will live?

The biblical meaning of restoration is to receive back more than has been lost to the point where the final state is greater than the original condition. In Joel God restores the years the locusts have eaten, Joel 2:25 which says, “The threshing floors shall be full of grain; the vats shall overflow with wine and oil…“You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied.” God has a habit of restoring things from their former glory to greatness, do you believe God will restore your marriage for his glory, for the beauty of his name. The truth is restoration may take different timelines and take different shapes for different people, depending on what God needs to work on, for some people their spouses were abusive which led to the divorce, let God work his way in that person while also believing in the restoration of your marriage. While for some people what was an issue of pride and personality differences. God removes a blind fold from their eyes and the restoration happens instantly or takes longer. God says in Isaiah that his thoughts are higher than our thoughts and his ways higher than our ways , also there is nothing impossible with our God. But first before you start believing and prophesying over “dry bones” your marriage consult God, if it his will for your life because some closed doors God has closed for your own benefit while some doors we close without consulting God.

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  1. wow am really inspired Tiffy. hope whoever read this will change their minds about marriage and trust in God.

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