“Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.” – 1 Corinthians 7:8

I have had  so many aha moments with the Holy Spirit ever since I started blogging,  so much that I believe this blog was more of documenting my journey with the Holy Spirit more than being a ministry but then again our lives are a ministry right? Recently the Holy Spirit took me on a learning journey about celibacy and marriage, in that they each serve a divine purpose. Much as there are people now married that were not called for marriage but life happened, there’s also people stressed with their season of celibacy hoping and waiting that one day they also get to walk down the aisle. If only we knew that we were not all called for marriage and some of us were called for celibacy, there would be less frustrations, heartbreaks and depression. I went down memory lane with the Holy Spirit, my before and after marriage and I am like heee eeeh maan if I knew what I know now, I would probably never decided to get married hahaha but the Holy Spirit reminded me that it was never my will from the onset but his that I am married. Honestly I thank God that He called me into it. If you are an avid reader of the blog you would know that I never wanted to get married but I prayed and told God that if it is his will for my life to be married then his will be done…the rest is history…..

Even if the will of God over my life was to call me into celibacy I would still probably succumb to the Valentine’s Day pressure or plain societal pressures that never forget to remind single people about finding the right one and settling down. I probably would be so depressed about my celibacy the way I got depressed over my unemployment situation instead of believing God has other plans for my life, but knowing what I know now about the marriage covenant, the wisdom God has poured over me the last past two years about marriage and my experience of marriage, I believe a lot of people would be content in their celibacy and not be anxious about marriage if they fully understood the knowledge from God about the concepts of both seasons. I understand the concept of Celibacy much better now, I like the comfort of familiarity (been single since birth) and the freedom it comes with, only submitting to the Holy Spirit. Please do not get me wrong I love marriage and it has it’s own beauty and benefits but it comes with extra work, (Ecclesiastes 4:12   gh one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly br ). Humans are very complex beings, as it is at my big age I am still trying to figure myself out, heal my traumas, understand and pursue my purpose,  fully understand my identity in Christ, now marriage adds on the work of having to deal with another human being probably trying to figure themselves out too while at the very same time ministering to one another. The Bible says iron sharpens iron but we all know sparks fly, there’s friction so while becoming one, it’s probably going to hurt, and it requires so much grace, love and mercy from each person in the covenant. 

I had a conversation with a friend about the beauty of celibacy after the publication of the blogpost, “ we are not all called for Marriage and looked at Jesus is a beautiful example that he came to Earth as a Human knowing his purpose fully and He executed it gracefully celibate, another example was that of Paul, that He wrote 2/3 parts of the New Testament in his celibacy. Celibacy affords you freedom to heal your traumas at your own pace, fully pursue your dreams and purpose and it also leaves more time to devote specifically to the affairs of the Lord. Honestly I believe there’s more advantages but because I am now married I wouldn’t know, only someone that is in the season of celibacy, either waiting on the Lord, would pursue the Holy Spirit what the season entails for them. When I got married I thought I understood what marriage was until I was married and sought God more and He revealed to me the knowledge and understanding of the marriage covenant. Proverbs 3:5, “Trust in the Lord and lean not on your understanding”, when it comes to things of the Kingdom of God the only way is to lean not on your understanding because our knowledge comes from the patterns of this world. 

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2 Responses

  1. I was going to comment and say ‘called’ sounds rather too strong for me and then you brought up the examples of Christ and Paul….! But in my mind I have always regarded men as unto cocked rifles when it comes to sex, always ready and burning with passion whereas women, not so much, that’s why the verse specify ‘widows’. Only when they have tasted, it becomes like a can of worms has been opened. Perhaps this marriage thing is a matter of managing passion, other than the fact that it is a safe place to procreate and also the fact that it was said that it is not good for man to be alone….Ladies please balance me. Otherwise good write up, enjoyed reading

    1. It’s a topic I am willing to dissect more, but I think once you have tasted the milk and honey whether male or female it’s not easy to forget about it and go back to celibacy.

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