“..For the weapons of our warfare arenot fleshly but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds..”- 2 Corinthians 10:4

“..Put on the whole armour of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil…”Ephesians 6:11

If anyone would have told a younger version of me that one day God will place a calling, a marriage ministry on my heart, I would have laughed in their face. Really God does turn ruins to live for the beauty of his name. A girl from a broken home raging war for marriages, laying her own imperfect marriage as a sacrifice with the hope of building other marriages to glorify God. Aaaah ?! But it wouldn’t be the first time he has done it, throughout scripture God uses imperfect people for his mission. Today God uses this platform to encourage young couples to fight for their marriages. A few months ago, God made me aware that marriages are in a constant spiritual war and most Christians are not aware that the war is not against flesh and blood but against their marriage and God, the enemy is in the business to make anything that is of the heaven on Earth look bad so as to not shine the light and to abort the fruits of marriage. Genesis 1:27-28 says, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth’.

After I met Beast, and got into what I had imagined a fairytale, I mean what could go wrong? It is a blessing from above that I wasn’t even seeking, that landed on my lap for the taking but sooner than I realized we were both awakened by the hard work that presented itself and like most young couples. We found ourselves surrounded by explosives of conflicts, communication, budgets , and in-laws. Add in differences in personalities, marriage is hard. I did what I knew best! I pitied myself, I fought in the flesh, I turned to my confidants for help and threw in prayer there and there (for ambience). Just enough to get me by, and in the meantime the devil tossed and turned me around. I must say he had fun with me for a moment there. He knew the obvious, I am a Christian but I did not pray, I did not understand the intensity of the constant spiritual war we face as children of God and most importantly God has given us the weapons for this war awaiting for us on Earth.

We are spiritual beings created by God with the sole purpose to bring Heaven on Earth, and the scripture affirms that we are in a spiritual war, we are warriors on a mission. The devil is roaring like a lion seeking for whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8). The short story: the devil is not too keen to see Heaven populate Earth hence we are in a constant battle, either our finances, our workplaces, marriages, health but somehow there is one problem after another, and we are busy fighting with our own wisdom, efforts. Hence the bible reveals to us that the weapons of our warfare arenot fleshly but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, (2 Corinthians 10:4). I want to talk about raging war for our marriages because I think it has become apparent how the “world” devalues marriage as an institution, how the world looks down upon wives that fight and stay in their marriages despite hardships they face, how the world is quick to say “Your happiness comes first”, and how wives are standing watching society paint them as clowns for staying in their marriages and praise the other women for dating a married man. But what does the bible say? Marriage is an institution created by God for his people. So why should we take what society and the world say as the standard to our marriages?

I want to tell a young wife or husband (I heard a-lot of husbands read @BoldTiffy) reading this blogpost today, that the devil hates you and most importantly hates your marriage. The devils job is to scheme and plot and prepare weapons to break you and your marriage, either by studying both you and your partners childhood traumas, your fears, your differences, personalities and using them to start arguments that leads to strife, or use his agents through witchcraft to come against your marriage. Marriages that suffer the most are those that carry young christian couples, and young couples that do not centre their marriages with Christ. First of all he knows we are young in the Kingdom and we don’t know how to fight spiritually and we are easy targets. Statistics show that a-lot of marriages never make it past three years. Secondly, he wants to abort whatever fruit God has placed in that marriage to never come to fruition.

Lets go to war.

God commands us to put on a full armor so that we may be able to stand against the cunning strategic manipulation of the devil, everyday when we wakeup we must remember that we are warriors and put on the armor given to us by God (Ephesians 11:12-18), the belt of truth, breastplate of righteousness, shoes of the gospel of peace, shield of faith, helmet of salvation, the sword of the spirit, and Prayer. The devil is a liar, he is good with twisting words and the first level of the battle is basing yourself on Gods truth, usually what God says opposes what the devil says. We wake up everyday with worldly view of marriage on our social media but what does God say? What is his truth, let us be careful of the things we absorb on social media or surroundings, Proverbs 3:5 says we should not lean on our own understanding. Romans 12:2 also says we should renew our minds , how do we renew our minds, with the truth, the word of God. Everyone has opinions, Everyone has views but anchor yourself on Gods truth about your marriage.

The breastplate of righteousness, the most important in my view because it protects the organs, your heart, in a war whatever you do guard your heart. Our Righteousness is our uprightness with God, when you live a life that is upright the devil has no dwelling place in your marriage, hence its important we forgive even if we don’t feel like because its through unforgiveness (sin) the devil can use it against us in our marriage. Marriage has a tendency to draw out sin out of us, pride, selfishness, unforgiveness, betrayal. Proverbs 4:23, says guard your heart because out of it flows the rivers of living water, and that is what the breastplate does, it guards your heart, so that out of it flows love, mercy, grace, forgiveness, empathy and compassion for one another.

The gospel of peace, as your shoes , the bible says blessed are the peace makers for they are called the children of God, peace is the significance of God in you and your marriage, be quick to be the peacemaker in your marriage and the devil will not have anything to hold on to. Shield of faith, whatever the devil throws at you in your marriage, you know the one that has called your name is fighting for you and you have already won whatever battle the devil has thrown your way and that your God is your shield. My favorite which is meditating on the word of God, everyday meditate on scriptures, the  devil hates it because its a sword, declare scriptures over your life, marriage, finances, workplace, children. Helmet of salvation, the helmet covers the head, the head sticks out the most in war and it needs the most covering, salvation, accepting Jesus Christ as your savior.  Also the head being the husband must be saved , this is my understanding, if he is not submit him in prayer under the obedience of Christ. The helmet protects your mind, your thoughts about your marriage, be careful what you feed it your mind. Lastly prayer, the most powerful, most Christians by the time they get here they are worn out, the devil has had it with them mentally, he has taken their peace and they do not have the energy to pray anymore. Pray for your marriages, fast for your marriages. Plead the blood of Jesus over your marriages. Submit your spouses under the blood of Jesus. By casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 2 Corinthians 10:5. Jada Pinkett Smith once said on her Red Table, if you want to grow exponentially, get married. I never anticipated how much stretching I had to grow spiritually when I got married.

Recently God revealed to me that even when you have put on the full armor, the bible in 2 Corinthians 4:8 says that the devil will come at you sideways, that is how cunning he is. All geared up and shielded up ready for your opponent, he comes at you sideways!!! Do you know what he is seeking to do, he is coming for your organs, your life?! He knows there is probably no protection (Still proves the devil schemes, sies). A soldier that is struck on the side in a war normally dies and that is what is the end goal for the devil. To kill and destroy us and our marriages. But God continues to promise us that we will be struck down but not destroyed, persecuted but not forsaken. I do not know about you but when I heard that the devil is deliberately on a mission to destroy me and my marriage, it felt like a blindfold was removed and yeah he does sometimes gets his way but I am now fully aware of his plans , I am geared up and as long as I know I have Jesus as my banner the devil has to bow. 

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4 Responses

  1. ThNk you so much good family for allowing God to use u to help the helpless people🤗may good Lord protect you under the blood of Jesus

  2. I feel like today’s blog is directly talking about my marriage. I am young and still trying to figure things out in life, I am a mother of 2, unemployed and married to this handsome, intelligent, smart and wise Husband.
    Our issue is that we do not think alike, my reasoning capacity is bad👎👎, hubby also feels like our frequency levels are totally different ( he thinks first before he reacts, I do the opposite and regret later when there’s conflict), I love my man with all my life but I feel like I’ve failed him and myself cause wow am always the reason why we fight. My Prayer is that the Lord help save our marriage and be with us until He do us part

    1. Hello Thabisedi, I am so glad you could relate to todays blog and Thank you for reading and your support. Love, Tiffy.

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